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The article seemed rather surface-oriented and barbaric. To 'prey' on someone because of the 'looks', seems rather antiquated or even cro-magnum.

I prefer to make them do stunts. More on that later.....in just a moment.

First for example, if I am considering a new mate, when one appears on the scene, these things I note: Is he first marked by interest in me? Are his ears, feet, and words, mouth pointing in my direction? What is he saying? Get real. This should be more than: Are his phermones jarting at me? Imagine: What does he 'look' like to me with my eyes closed?

Then what is his body language telling me at this point? Be scientific. Do not be carnal. Assume that he is 'taken' and wait for all the right signals.

The reasoning is that, all good men have a lady by their side usually, either in the past, currently or eventually, and you must wait for things to unfold. Pouncing is out of the question.

Never hurt a Sister or a Brother. Moving to early could damage the neurosis of those whom we are about to explore. Humans are freaks and fragile. So hang back and watch, women always get hurt first, anyways. Just do a good turn, and think without malice, and be sober.

Then work him like a dog and pony show. Don't give into low scores in any places.

I do not consider his attractiveness yet. That part is too easy. esp. in a world where women are inordinately judged for their physical beauty. The pattern is ugly and must be stopped. Male or female. I have seen earthly beauty cause more pain than pleasure. Is LUST not one of the deadly sins? Stay focussed on the big picture heathens! 'Otherworldly Love' or 'Love that is Out of this World' is the answer. Hope is a plan.

AS I clear my throat, I notice character of dress. I do secretly study his eye movements, and I do listen for slurred speech, and listen for communication skills. Afterall, we are in Tap City. I also assume, that if he is attractworthy, he already has a mate or two that he has to feign off prior to starting any new coup. So I remain in no hurry, and work into the study slowly. Afterall, I have identified my personal reasons for a relationship to myself prior, and it does not have alot to do with facial structure, nor younger age. In fact, if he is visibly younger or older than you, in particularly, do not get into bed with them ever. Moving on....

Then the stunts begin.

Oops, but first: I determine the validity, or set ground rules, of the social or work setting and determine if it is a viable condition for a healthy relationship. If it is a bar, then it has zero chance of survival rate if their is a significant age gap, so that direction should not even be a factor. That stands to reason, I am sure most would agree. If we worked together or met on the job, while one or both people at work, the survival rate is 15-20% at best, all these factor into trust, a major component in playing for keeps.

After that, then I make him do the physical feat of some sort. In Jamaica, I once asked a prospective mate to climb a tree and get the Bread fruit down. I noted how he did it. Does he loft the Bread fruit onto the chicken coop? Or does it crack open on the ground? In West Allis, I asked one man to tear apart and replace my head gasket on my 89 Colony Park. In Milwaukee, I asked one if he could help me clean up my yard. Men are very handy and enjoy showing their strengths. It gives them honor, in most cases. You can get really technical with it, if they have some special literary skills etc. Let them strut their stuff. Let them woo you and amaze you. Be careful because you do not want to have him giving you work related services, that is too much of a crossover. There are a whole new set of discoveries to unearth of you head in that direction. Check to see how he feels about Paul McCartney. That is like giving' the fruits' a metaphorical squeeze. If he has balls, he will say yes. If, No, then run.

Does he smoke? I look at that as well. How does he feel about Legalization? I question him on his woodworking skills, and ask him what type of home loan he has. 30 year fixed? Once I am satisfied, I can allow him to then submit a request for a date, written or phoned, or maybe send some sort of invite via e-mail. How you do that is up to you. Tell him that you'd be interested in discussing some activity or hobby that you have unearthed about him, and suggest that you discuss it further. Flirt naturally if he is single, no one likes a bullshitter, if his singleness is undiscovered, let nothing ride. Walk.

I then adhere to remembering if his answers proved solvency, or at least solicited a small fraction of security reassurement or enhancement? Am I going because I am intrigued or just killing time? I do this to be emotionally honest with myself, and it little matters later if it is 'meant to be'.

It is not until I go on a date with him do I determine if his features are something that I can study in light and angle for the next 50 odd years, but still not before I notice the timbre and pitch of his voice. Does it have a lilt to it? I abhor whiners, and I know this about myself.

After that, I prefer to study peoples reaction to his physical features, take note on his charisma effects on other people and his reaction to them and those reactions. Does he need attention from those around him? Is he crazy?

In this world one just cannot be too careful. Mental stability and clear reasoning is the most important factors, plus a healthy lifestyle, and LOOKS....Angry and Bitter Sounding Cougars, they are definitely NOT a hi-priority, Ms. confusers of age and beauty.

What IS important is their self identity being healthy, and I prefer original, and by that I mean, not contrived or overburdened by society's oft wicked imprint....any negative social imprint should be avoided, if that can happen...I mean you still can fall head first in a vat full of abuse, but strive to handle all essentials in a safe and orderly fashion. Yet, make it look like you are not all about the 'cold and calculative' though. Otherwise we could just call you Hilary or Barbara for that matter. After all things are a go, then cataclysm onward, as nature is calling now....and no time like the present to craft a careful longstanding relationship-non cougaresque and in style.

These were some quick reflections of mine, as the Official, OnE and OnlY 'HOuR LAdY of Alternative Thought' upon reading a 'Cougar Women' article and how I, a 'Women Without Cougar Inclinations' feels it is best to try and practice the Art of Love Finding-Identifying.... and it is written by yours truly: Barbara Ellen Meyer-Spidell or in this case' Hour Lady'---as in "gimme an hour we will work it out."                                                - ...the picture above was taken of me, in tears- broken hearted...so learn from my suffering, please, and listen to what I suggest and allow honor, please, and save yourself the ordeal and stress. There is not room in this world for 'pop cheekiness' with regard to LOVE and The Carnal Fashion Montage Regime.  The NewWorldOrder holds Peace Captive alone. Sparing ALL expense at the hands of greedlust. The meek are assuming control here. One should never be predatory, people!...only prepared able and capable of handling a firearm responsibly for self protection!...a whole 'nother subject!