http://onmilwaukee.com/rss/rss_sarahfoster.xml Milwaukee's Daily Magazine Sarah Foster en-us Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:45:07 CST http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss http://onmilwaukee.com/images/layout/omc_rssfeed_logo.gif http://onmilwaukee.com 204 67 This week, our sex and relationships columnist tries to answer the age-old question: Why do nice guys finish last? Gentlemen, take notes. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/niceguysfinishlast111409.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/niceguysfinishlast111409.html?20828 Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:04:00 CST More than ever, sex education is an important part of a teenager's high school experience. OnMilwaukee.com sex/relationships columnist Sarah Foster thinks that parents need to step to the plate when it comes to teaching kids about the "birds and the bees." http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/fostersexed110609.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/fostersexed110609.html?20757 Sat, 7 Nov 2009 15:15:00 CST Perhaps you've heard about the recent study and subsequent news hype about the happiness of women in this country. Maria Shriver was a guest reporter on NBC's "Today" show last week and brought up the study in her segment, "A Woman's Nation." The premise is that women are less happy today than they were in 1972. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/womenshappiness.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/womenshappiness.html?20691 Sat, 31 Oct 2009 13:01:00 CST We all know people that throw around the word "love" as if they were saying "Thank you," or "Good morning." It's like when someone apologizes too often and too quickly and you can tell they don't even know what those words mean anymore. It isn't easy to say those three little words -- even when you are truly invested and involved in a relationship -- because the fear is you won't hear them in return. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/meaningoflove.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/meaningoflove.html?20601 Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:05:00 CST Aside from affection, love and attraction, women admit to having sex for reasons ranging from boosting their self-esteem to getting revenge on either a cheating partner or another woman. Some say they have sex to relieve pain such as a headache, or because it helps them fall asleep more easily. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/whywomenhavesex.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/whywomenhavesex.html?20521 Sat, 17 Oct 2009 13:04:00 CST Dinner and a movie is traditional and pleasant. But, it can be boring. Looking for a way to add some zip to your dating life or rekindle the romance in your relationship? Sometimes, it pays to be creative. With a little planning, you can have memorable, romantic and game-changing dates. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/romantictips.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/romantictips.html?20432 Sat, 10 Oct 2009 11:37:00 CST Whether you're just starting something new or are years into it, romance is interconnected with many of the other aspects in a relationship: passion, sex, love, spontaneity, desire and longevity. Even when we feel like we know someone still wants us and thinks about us, it's always nice to be reassured. Romance happens, you don't need to plan it or pay for it, but don't ignore it. When the moment strikes, you need to take full advantage. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/romancereturns.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/romancereturns.html?20326 Sat, 3 Oct 2009 15:17:00 CST Many people confuse polygamy with bigamy, which also means multiple marriages. The difference between the two is that in polygamy, all the involved parties know about one another, which is often not the case in bigamy. In this country, both are illegal. Bigamy is considered a misdemeanor and polygamy a felony. The practices are in the spotlight more and more due to recent court cases over the matter as well as popular television shows like "Big Love," which portray the ins and outs of polygamist families in a fictional setting. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/polygamy.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/polygamy.html?20264 Fri, 25 Sep 2009 11:26:00 CST Domestic abuse is something many of us see every day, but either the signs are too slight to recognize or we believe that it's none of our business to intrude. It's true that many abusive relationships start out very subtle; so subtle, in fact, that victims themselves have trouble identifying the abuse until it reaches more severe levels. By that time, the manipulation of their emotions is such that even physical violence is not enough to convince them to seek help. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/domesticabuse.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/domesticabuse.html?20212 Fri, 18 Sep 2009 14:16:00 CST The commercial grabs attention. A guy wakes up from a night of drinking, he's in bed with a large and unattractive woman, and he slips out of bed, grabs his stuff and sneaks down the stairs -- clearly trying to forget this ever happened. He's almost out the door when he gets a disappointed look on his face and the camera cuts to a wedding photo of him and the gal upstairs. Welcome to AshleyMadison.com. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/ashleymadisonads.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/ashleymadisonads.html?20146 Thu, 10 Sep 2009 16:16:00 CST When it comes to strip clubs, some women are set down strict rules for their husbands and boyfriends. Others are more relaxed. However, the line between spectating and participating is thin and can lead to problems in a relationship. Whether it's a bachelor party, client schmoozing or just a drunken guys' night out, many women just don't like the idea of their men being surrounded by naked women. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/stripclubparameters.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/stripclubparameters.html?20098 Thu, 3 Sep 2009 16:21:00 CST All the recent activity in the news about civil unions between same-sex partners, along with a criminal act of vandalism committed against a friend, prompted a number of questions. What's the big deal? What is it about gays, lesbians and bisexuals that sends otherwise normal people to a place of such hate and violence? http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/gaymarriage082709.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/gaymarriage082709.html?20035 Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:23:00 CST You don't want to suffocate your mate, but a simple "I'm thinking of you" message can help deepen the bonds of a relationship. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/absencereunion.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/absencereunion.html?19984 Fri, 21 Aug 2009 15:08:00 CST As with many ideas, the menage a trois is a lot easier to conceive than it is to execute. Here is a look at some pitfalls to the fantasy. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/threesacrowd.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/threesacrowd.html?19920 Fri, 14 Aug 2009 15:03:00 CST I have a fetish ... when I see a pair of shoes that I like, I can barely think about anything else. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/shoefetish.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/shoefetish.html?19866 Fri, 7 Aug 2009 16:22:00 CST The idea of marriage and one partner for the rest of your existence goes against many of our primal instincts. But, we're more intelligent than cats and bears, aren't we? http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/polyamory.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/polyamory.html?19804 Fri, 31 Jul 2009 13:28:00 CST Some people are initiators. Some people wait for things to happen. Breaking those patterns can be a difficult proposition. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/initiatingsextalk.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/initiatingsextalk.html?19760 Sat, 25 Jul 2009 07:42:00 CST It's no secret that when times are tough, bills are piling up and one or more of the parties in a relationship fear being laid off, a relationship can suffer because we are so preoccupied with keeping our heads above water. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/recessionrelationships.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/recessionrelationships.html?19711 Sat, 18 Jul 2009 11:11:00 CST Asked about their sexual partners, men tend to inflate and women subtract. This is because the standards are different for the sexes. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sexpartners.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sexpartners.html?19650 Fri, 10 Jul 2009 20:03:00 CST Whether they like to admit to it or not, women have become increasingly competitive with one another from middle school to old age and the finish line to this ridiculous race is still far out of sight. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/meangirls.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/meangirls.html?19595 Fri, 3 Jul 2009 16:33:00 CST I rarely look to books, television or films to make lasting impressions on me in terms of life lessons, but in this case I was vulnerable and soaked up every word like a sponge. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/hesnotthatintoyou.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/hesnotthatintoyou.html?19535 Sat, 27 Jun 2009 10:39:00 CST Even in this "enlightened" era, there are some subjects that make people uncomfortable. This is one of them. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sarahfoster061809.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sarahfoster061809.html?19423 Thu, 18 Jun 2009 15:29:00 CST New love is a great feeling, but you have to find it first. If you aren't attached, how do you escape the sea of couples and venture out to find someone of your own? Or, do you just find someone who loves sitting in the corner of the bar and commiserating about how much you hate couples in love? http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/foster061209.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/foster061209.html?19387 Fri, 12 Jun 2009 18:24:00 CST Ask any woman under the age of 45 if she's "experimented" with other chicks and you'll probably receive a resounding "Oh, yeah." Straight girl-on-girl action has definitely become a more and more regular and accepted occurrence at bars and in dorm rooms over the past 30 years. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/foster060709.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/foster060709.html?19331 Sun, 7 Jun 2009 11:18:00 CST At a bar last weekend in Chicago, an innocent conversation about eyebrow waxing turned into a debate about anal bleaching and other genital "beautification" options. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/bleaching052909.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/bleaching052909.html?19250 Fri, 29 May 2009 14:28:00 CST Blaming yourself for a cheating lover is natural, even though it's completely ass-backward. You feel kicked in the stomach and completely unlovable and the truth is your only fault was getting involved with an untrustworthy piece of garbage. Fool me once... but never, ever again. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/cheaters052309.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/cheaters052309.html?19199 Sat, 23 May 2009 15:31:00 CST Everyone knows about the possible pitfalls of sending raunchy pictures or text messages. What is it that drives us to do it, anyway? http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sexting051609.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sexting051609.html?19137 Sat, 16 May 2009 16:49:00 CST The 1993 movie "Indecent Proposal" portrays an ethical, sexual dilemma. Honestly, how many of us have been offered or even taken money for our company or more? http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/foster050809.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/foster050809.html?19060 Fri, 8 May 2009 15:27:00 CST What do you do when you like everything about your significant other -- except for the way their body chemistry hits your olfactory senses? http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/smelltest.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/smelltest.html?18971 Thu, 30 Apr 2009 15:10:00 CST Rough play in the bedroom often gets a bad rap, but it is probably more popular than you'd think, based on how we talk about it at parties. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sarahfosterrough.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sarahfosterrough.html?18902 Thu, 23 Apr 2009 14:25:00 CST Stress, success, positions of power and spending that much time with another person definitely can lead to sexual tension and romance in the workplace. But, participants must proceed with caution. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/officeromance.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/officeromance.html?18517 Thu, 16 Apr 2009 14:22:00 CST Sex and relationships blogger Sarah Foster received her first letter this week, and it came from a male who was curious about what women do behind closed doors. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sarahflyingsolo040908.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sarahflyingsolo040908.html?18746 Thu, 9 Apr 2009 16:16:00 CST A few years ago, I became fast friends with a guy after collaborating on a project at work. I was thrilled with the prospect of this new friend. I was recently single after my somewhat hurtful break up, and this guy was the perfect thing to get me out of the house, meeting new people and feeling social again. Most thrilling to me was, the idea of a male friend that was "safe," because he was gay. Or, so I thought. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/almostperfectboyfriend.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/almostperfectboyfriend.html?18519 Thu, 2 Apr 2009 15:16:00 CST The idea of a sex column conjures cliches, but our new columnist Sarah Foster will go beyond the obvious "Sex and the City" references to bring first-person tales from the front lines of dating and relating in Milwaukee. http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sexcolumnintro.html http://onmilwaukee.com/living/articles/sexcolumnintro.html?18515 Thu, 26 Mar 2009 16:35:00 CST