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Crocs. Ugh.
Crocs. Ugh.

Kill your Crocs

Three summers ago, I saw the rubber clogs with holes in them for the first time, and I thought they looked comfortable, so I bought a pair. And then I bought another pair. By the following summer, my entire family had a pair of Crocs. We were officially Crocs dorks.

Now, it's time for reform.

I am not claiming to be the maven of footwear, and I am certainly not the first person to say this, but I think it's time to terminate Crocs -- and Crocs knock-offs -- for good. We are going to look back at this era and laugh that we actually wore these.

Fashionistas have condemned them for years, and I agree it's time to put Crocs where they belong: in the same outdated category as hair scrunchies and wind pants.

Agree?

My name is Molly and I have a problem with dull cutlery.
My name is Molly and I have a problem with dull cutlery.

It's hard to hear what you need to hear

Recently, my best friend told me something I needed to hear for a long time. She and I prepare food together a lot, usually at my house so I can keep one ear on the baby monitor, and over time, she noticed something about my life that bothered her.

So, she finally told me.

"You need to sharpen your knives more often," she said. "I've wanted to tell you this, Edler, for a while."

We both laughed when she said this. She didn't mean to, but she said it in a way as if she told me I drink too much or have B.O.

But she's right. Knife sharpening is not one of my strong points. I don't have an electric knife sharpener, and only occasionally I bust out a manual hand-sharpening tool. I might as well sharpen my pencils with a Swiss Army Knife.

This event started me thinking about how difficult it is to tell a friend about something you think they need to change. I have been there, and so have you.

Most of us say we want constructive criticism, and in theory, it's the role of a "good friend" to acknowledge  blind spots and kindly alert us to them when we didn't notice or are too deep in denial to accept the obvious.

But it's hard to process when they do, and event harder to instigate.

I conducted a mini intervention once. My sister and I met with someone to tell her we were concerned about her relationship with a man who we thought was truly detrimental for her. This was one of the most difficult conversations I ever had.

But there are other times when things have gone unsaid, because I was concerned with hurting someone's feelings or because I just didn't have the time or energy to open the proverbial can of worms. And truly, especially after writing this blog,  I want to say I'm going to be more open to the helpful messages of others and willing to deliver a few more myself.

Right after I sharpen my knives.

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Deibert and Devin: a combination of opposite personalities that somehow works.
Deibert and Devin: a combination of opposite personalities that somehow works.

Dan and Nicole swap radio for TV

Dan Deibert and Nicole Devin, former WISN-AM hosts of the now-defunct "Early Spin," have rejoined forces.

This time, however, you don’t have to adjust your radio dial to find them. Instead, Deibert and Devin launch "The Dan and Nicole Show" on their Web site, danandnicoleshow.tv, on Sunday, Aug. 10, at 8 p.m.

"The Dan and Nicole Show" is a weekly, half-hour show. It will cover current events and live in-studio news bits, sketches and whatever else strikes their fancy. Heck, I might even make an appearance or two. (I was a weekly call-in guest on "The Early Spin.")

Deibert, a conservative, and Devin, who is more liberal, became friends during their radio years together despite their political differences. 

"We have not gone a week without talking since the show was cancelled. We knew we had a chemistry that people try really hard to create," says Devin. "We make each other laugh so we decided to do this show for us. It is really about what we find funny, interesting and important to talk about."

The Vans Warped Tour, featuring Katy Perry, takes places at the Marcus Amphitheater on Friday, Aug. 1. Doors open at 11 a.m.
The Vans Warped Tour, featuring Katy Perry, takes places at the Marcus Amphitheater on Friday, Aug. 1. Doors open at 11 a.m.

Lesbian lyrics are a sure thing

The Vans Warped Tour rips into town tomorrow, and controversial singer / songwriter Katy Perry is on the bus.

Perry, who started her career as a Christian gospel singer, released a single last you called "UR So Gay" followed by another hit, "I Kissed A Girl."

Both songs created a fair share of  controversy, but for different reasons. Some members of the LGBT community felt "UR So Gay" came off as homophobic, whereas "I Kissed A Girl" is criticized for using shock value lyrics to sell albums.

It's genius, really. Perry relies on the classic girl-on-girl fantasy to appeal to male listeners, which is exactly what Britney did with her naughty schoolgirl look. Simultaneously, Perry hooks female listeners, too, because -- let's just say it --  most ladies are bicurious.

However, "I Kissed A Girl" doesn't scratch the surface of the lesbian or bisexual experience. Lyrically, it's much weaker than songs by Ani DiFranco like "In or Out" or Jill Sobule's less contrived song also called "I Kissed A Girl" that came out in 1995.

If anything, "I Kissed A Girl" is closer to Cyndi Lauper's "Girls Just Want To Have Fun."

At the end of the video, Perry wakes up in bed with a man and it turns out her female-on-female frolics were only a dream. This suggests the song is merely a safe, mainstream attempt to snag listeners by capitalizing on straight people's obsession with the gay experience.  

Not that there's anything wrong with that.